Lesson 16: Choosing Wisely
Next to your decision to take Jesus Christ as your Savior, the most important decision you can make is the choice of a life partner.
Some people prefer not to marry. That is certainly an acceptable choice, but most people choose to marry.
Getting married is easy. Having a happy and successful marriage is not easy. You do not just “luck” into it. There are some definite things you can do that will greatly improve your chances of having a successful marriage. Here are five things:
- Understand Biblical marriage.
- Become the “right” person.
- Look to God to give you the right mate.
- Choose wisely.
- Seek God’s blessing on your engagement.
Marriage is one of the most important events in any person’s life. It marks the entrance into a whole new way of life as two people blend their lives into one.
Biblical marriage is a lifetime commitment. It is a serious thing for a man and woman to solemnly vow before God and families and friends that they will love and cherish each other until death parts them.
God takes vows seriously. God says: “When you make a vow, you must keep it.” God has no pleasure in those who make vows and break them. In His word, God says, “I hate divorce...”(Malachi 2:16).
You will take a big step toward a successful marriage if both of you agree that marriage is for life and that divorce is not an option for you. Jesus said, “…What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder” (Matthew 19:6).
There will be problems in any marriage, but there is a big advantage when both husband and wife know that they are committed to each other for life. It provides a security and freedom in which they can work out their problems without the threat of divorce. The word “divorce” should NEVER be used as a weapon in an argument.